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A: Here's a reply to your question. The answer is 'no'.
Abortion should not be acceptable if a girl was raped.
Abortion for a 14-17 year old results in sterility 30% of the time; 25% for those over 18. This means that the crime of rape is compounded by a 2nd crime against the girl because she risks future sterility.
Also, 85% of women having one abortion experience regrets, emotional pain and even breakdowns. Why should a rapist victimize a second time? Why get rid of the evidence of his crime (a baby)?
There are about 1 1/2 million infertile couples seeking adoption in the US each year. Adoption is an option everyone can live with. The crime was perpetrated by the rapist, not the girl - she should not have to bear the risks and consequences. Obviously, we still are speaking of a baby, regardless of how conceived.
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The humanity of the pre-born, rape and the crime of abortion- Medical science clearly shows that life begins at conception.
Consider the following:
· At 18 days of gestation, the baby’s heart begins occasional pulsation.
· At 20 days, the foundation for the entire nervous system exists.
· At 21 days, the heart begins to beat regularly and pumps through the circulatory system.
· At 30 days, the eyes, ears, mouth, kidneys and liver exist.
· At 42 days, brain waves are reliably present and reflexes exist.
· At 45 days, teeth buds are present; skeleton is complete; movement begins.
· At 56 days, all body systems are present; he reacts to pain.
· At 9-10 weeks, he squints, retracts his tongue, and will bend his fingers around an object.
· At 11-12 weeks, all body systems work; his arms and legs move; he swallows, sucks thumb, inhales and exhales amniotic fluid, and has fingernails.
· At 14 weeks, the auditory sense is present.
· At 16 weeks, eyelashes are present; he can grasp, swim, kick and turn.
· At 18 weeks, his vocal cords work; he can cry.
· At 20 weeks, hair appears; he weighs about one pound and is about 12 inches long.
Rape and incest victims: The newly released book Victims and Victors presents data from 192 women who became pregnant as a result of rape or incest. Of 50 rape victims who reported feelings about their abortions, 88 percent explicitly stated it was the wrong choice. Forty-three percent of the rape victims surveyed reported having abortions because of pressure from others. More than 90 percent said they would discourage other victims of sexual assault from undergoing abortion.
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Rape and incest victims: Dr. Reardon touched on a newly released book, Victims and Victors, that presents data from 192 women who became pregnant as a result of rape or incest. The January/February 2001 issue of Family Voice includes an article on the results. Of 50 rape victims who reported feelings about their abortions, 88 percent explicitly stated it was the wrong choice. Forty-three percent of the rape victims surveyed reported having abortions because of pressure from others. More than 90 percent said they would discourage other victims of sexual assault from undergoing abortion.5
Concerned Women for America: http://www.cwfa.org/articledisplay.asp?id=1456&department=CWA&categoryid=life
..How other people treat her
There are an estimated 1,365,730 abortions performed in the United States each year. I've seen esimates on the Internet for as many as 700,000 rapes per year while my Almanac quote FBI Uniform Crime Reports for 1996 as 95,770 forcible rapes, down from 109,060 in '92. (A different page in my Almanac tells me that the average prison sentence for rape is 9 years 9 months, while the average actual time served is 5 years 5 months.)
Dr. Sandra Mahkorn found that 75 to 85 percent chose against abortion.1
Rape Victims Don't Always Want Abortions,
Women's Organization Says by Steven Ertelt
LifeNews.com Editor September 7, 2006
Springfield, IL (LifeNews.com) -- An organization for women who become pregnant after becoming victims of sexual assault says that raped women don't always want abortions and challenged abortion advocates for making it appear that way. The group says that abortion creates more problems for women pregnant by rape than it solves.
The members of the Ad Hoc Committee of Women Pregnant by Sexual Assault (WPSA) want to insert their voice into the abortion debate.
In an attempt to do so, they have written a petition to Congress and state legislatures asking for hearings on their experiences. They want women who've become pregnant through sexual assault to be allowed to share their stories and address the real concerns that they have faced.
"In virtually every case, those people who claim to represent our interests have never taken the time to actually listen to us or to learn about our true circumstances, needs, and concerns," the group writes in its petition.
"We are deeply offended and dismayed each time our difficult circumstances are exploited for public consumption to promote the political agenda of others," the group added.
Kathleen DeZeeuw, who gave birth to a boy after she was raped at the age of 16, says abortion advocates have used the issue of sexual assault pregnancy to push for abortion without considering the real needs of the women involved.
"I feel personally assaulted and insulted every time I hear that abortion should be legal because of rape and incest," she said.
"I feel we're being used to further the abortion issue, even though we've never been asked to tell our side of the story," DeZeeuw added.
"Women who have gone through the trauma of rape or incest need to be counseled, cared for, and listened to," she explained. "A woman is most vulnerable at a time such as this and doesn't need to be pounced on by yet another act of violence. She needs someone to truly listen to her, care for her, and give her time to heal."
The group's efforts come at a time when abortions in cases of rape and incest are the subject of debate.
As states like Louisiana, South Dakota and Mississippi grappled with abortion bans in their state legislatures, debates raged about whether those exceptions should be added to the prohibitions on abortion.
A poll in South Dakota found that while the state is split on the abortion ban there, which does not have the exceptions, South Dakota voters would overwhelmingly support it if those exceptions were added.
But the group, in a statement sent to LifeNews.com, says that abortion does not help women who are victimized by rape or incest.
"In many cases, we felt pressured to abort by family members, social workers, and doctors who insisted that abortion was the 'best' solution," the group says.
"For many the abortion caused physical and emotional trauma equal to or exceeding the trauma of the sexual assault that our abortions were supposed to 'cure,'" the group added.
Dr. David Reardon, the director of the Elliot Institute, which studies the effect of abortion on women, has written a book called Victims and Victors about such women.
He said the results of the South Dakota poll results reflect voters' desire to spare women the hardships often associated with giving birth to a child conceived in sexual assault. But he explained that the perception doesn't match reality.
"Typically, most people have accepted the premise that sexual assault victims not only want abortions but will actually benefit from them," Reardon said.
"They assume abortion will help victims put the assault behind them, recover more quickly, and avoid the problems that might arise with giving birth to the child--who is often described as the 'rapist's child' rather than the woman's child," he added.
Reardon pointed to two studies and said they were the only ones published about what women who are victims of sexual abuse really want.
Tracking the choices and experiences of women who have become pregnant after rape or incest, both studies found that approximately 70 percent of pregnant rape victims chose to give birth rather than have abortions, even though abortion was readily available.
"Prior to becoming pregnant, many of these woman would have said that they would have an abortion if they became pregnant through rape." said Reardon. "But after the rape, many change their minds because they have a heightened concern about abuse and trauma.
They want to break the cycle of violence. Many also sense that an abortion will only add to their emotional suffering."
The Elliot Institute also surveyed 192 women who became pregnant through rape or incest. Of those who had abortions, nearly 80 percent said that they strongly regretted the abortion, with most saying it had caused far more harm than good in their lives.
Among women who gave birth to their children, the consensus against abortion was even stronger, the survey showed.
Of the women who reported having abortions, most reported feeling pressured by family members or health care workers to undergo abortions.
"This was especially the case for those who became pregnant through incest," Reardon said because the perpetrator often used abortion to cover up his crimes.
"In almost every case, the abortion was chosen by the girl's parents or tragically, by the perpetrator himself," Reardon explained. "In some cases the abortion was used to cover up the incest and the girl was returned to the same abusive situation to be victimized again."
But if sexual assault victims aren't offered abortions, what should be the response from those around them?
"The women in our survey said repeatedly that what they needed was time and support to come to terms with the assault and the resulting pregnancy," Reardon said.
Related web sites:
A copy of the petition can be found in the booklet, "The Hard Cases: New Facts, New Answers," which can be downloaded for free at http://www.unchoice.info/resources.htm.
Several reasons are given for not aborting. First, approximately 70 percent of all women believe abortion is immoral, even though many also feel it should be a legal choice for others. Approximately the same percentage of pregnant rape victims believe abortion would be just another act of violence perpetrated against their bodies and their children
Robbed of her maternity
Teen girls having sex with older men – a statistic on the rise
"Young women who had ever been forced to have sex were twice as likely as those who had not to have a partner who was 3–5 years older."
"Such age differences are generally of little public interest. However, when adolescents younger than 18 are involved with men who are substantially older than they are, differences between partners in such factors as maturity, life experience, social position, financial resources and physical size may make such relationships inherently unequal, and the young women may therefore be vulnerable to abuse and exploitation by their partners." Source: Family Planning Perspectives, July/August 1999, the Alan Guttmacher Institute
A woman who becomes pregnant due to an act of either rape or incest is the victim of a horribly violent and morally reprehensible crime. Although pregnancy as a result of either rape or incest is extremely rare, there is no getting around the fact that pregnancy does occur in some instances.
A personal testimony from Jackie, a rape victim
"I soon discovered that the aftermath of my abortion continued a long time after the memory of my rape had faded. I felt empty and horrible. Nobody told me about the pain I would feel deep within causing nightmares and deep depressions. They had all told me that after the abortion I could continue my life as if nothing had happened."
As theologian and ethicist Dr. Michael Bauman has observed: "A child does not lose its right to life simply because its father or its mother was a sexual criminal or a deviant."
Women annually reported about 500,000 rapes or sexual assaults. Friends or acquaintances of the victims committed more than half of these crimes. Source: http://www.cwfa.org/articles/3109/CWA/life/_______________________________________________________
Studies show why there’s a low pregnancy rate after rape
Of these 200,000 women who were raped, one-third were either too old or too young to get pregnant. That leaves 133,000 at risk of pregnancy.
A woman is capable of being fertilized only three days out of her 30-day month. So divide 133,000 by 10, and 13,300 women remain.
One-fourth of all women in the United States of child-bearing age have been sterilized. That drops the figure to 10,000.
Only half of the assailants penetrate her body and/or deposit sperm. Cut it in half again. We are at one to 5,000.
Fifteen percent of men are sterile; that drops the figure to 4,250. Fifteen percent of non-surgically sterilized women are naturally sterile. That reduces the number to 3,600.
Another 15% are on the pill and/or are already pregnant. Now the figure is 3,070. Now factor in something that all adults know. It takes from five to ten months for an average couple to achieve a pregnancy. Using the smaller figure, to be conservative, divide the 3,000 figure by 5, and the number drops to about 600.
Finally, we must factor in one of the most important reasons why a rape victim rarely gets pregnant, and that is psychic trauma. Every woman is aware that stress and emotional factors can alter her menstrual cycle. So what further percentage reduction in pregnancy will this cause? No one really knows, but this factor certainly cuts the last figure by at least 50%, and probably more, leaving a final figure of 225 women pregnant each year, a number that closely matches the 200 found in clinical studies.
If the rape victim is treated immediately A study of 1,000 rape victims, who were treated medically right after the rape, reported no pregnancies. Source: L. Kuchera, "Postcoital Contraception with Diethylstilbestrol," JAMA, October 25, 1971
If the rape victim is not treated, and if it is limited to true assault rape, the pregnancy rate will still be extremely small. If all "reported" rapes, including statutory rape (under 18-years-old, but sometimes with consent given), when drunk (with questionable consent), etc., it is higher.
If these had been limited to true assaults and the women had been given hormone treatment, the pregnancy rate would have been much lower, perhaps zero.
Source: "Sexual Assault on Women and Girls," Amer. Jour. OB/GYN, vol. 109, No. 3, Feb. 1971, pp. 480-486 Hayman et al., "Rape in the District of Columbia," Amer. Jour. OB/GYN, vol. 113, no. 1, May 1972, pp. 91, 97
In still another series of 126 assault rape victims, only half of those at risk of pregnancy were treated, but none became pregnant. Source: Evrard & Gold, "Epidemiology and Management of Sexual Assault Victims," OB & GYN, vol. 53, no. 3, Mar. 1979, pp. 381-387
"In the majority of these cases, the pregnant victim’s problems stem more from the trauma of rape than from the pregnancy itself." Mahkorn & Dolan, "Sexual Assault & Pregnancy."
Source: In New Perspectives on Human Abortion,
University Publishers of Amer., 1981, pp. 182-199 239
q Without comprehending it, what the rapist sought to bring about by force, the victim, by aborting, vindicates and completes. Source: Steve Kellmeyer http://www.envoymagazine.com/backissues/1.3/mayjune_story3.html
Abortion is never necessary
Since conception does not occur immediately following intercourse, pregnancy can be eliminated in all rape cases if the rape victim receives immediate medical treatment by having all the male semen removed from her uterus. Source:
Some women who had children after rape, then raised them, feel adoption
would have been the better course. Kathleen DeZeeuw writes: "I personally
believe that for her child's sake, the rape victim should strongly
More crime than is reported!
On the web:
Below are some helpful links :
Hope For Healing. Org What is Date Rape?
According to Dictionary.Com date rape is "Rape perpetrated by the victim's social escort." Survivors know it as a major crime against women in this country. Its victims are much more likely to know (and trust) the perpetrator involved.
The effects are long term and can leave a victim's life ripped apart. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is a common problem for rape survivors.
The crime effects not only the primary victim, but spreads to include significant others, friends and can even impact distant family members. The devastation for the victim can be far reaching and the conviction rate is poor because only 5% of date rapes are ever reported
There are many situations where perpetrators don't feel their behavior has broken the law, but according to the victim, the story is different.
Ideas like: She really wanted it. Girls say no when they really mean yes. She wouldn't have gone out if she hadn't intended to have sex. I deserved something for buying the dinner, flowers or movie. She knew she wanted it but just didn't want to admit it. -- These are ALL misconceptions about rape.
When a woman says no, the answer is No. By going out on a date a woman is not automatically agreeing to have sex no matter how much money was spent. Sex is not something owed in return for going on a date.
One of the most common questions people ask me is, "If we've had sex before and I told him no and tried to fight him but he ended up getting his way is it really rape?" Those types of situations can be emotionally difficult to sort out. The victim in this case feels violated. The perpetrator feels like nothing happened that was wrong, caring very little for the feelings of the victim.
Date rapes are the most common type of rape committed. It tends to be very devasting because the victim has been harmed by someone she previously trusted. Victims have to learn to trust people all over again. This is not an easily accomplished feat.
Drugs such as Rohypnol are being used more widely. Very often, the victim will not remember a crime being committed but will only have a vague awareness of something happening.
Most people think of rapes as being done by someone jumping out from behind a bush and overpowering a victim. That is not usually the case. Approximately 42% of the rapes that happen are date rapes where the perpetrator is known to the victim.
There is hope. Education may be the key to curbing this occurrence. Men need to learn that when a woman says no. The answer is no. It's not, maybe. It's not, later. It's no.
Women need to know that it's all right to say no, to mean it, and that having agreed to have sex with this person in the past does not give that person an automatic right to thier body. If a woman says no. It should be taken and meant as a no because that's what it is. No!
Source: To see the full article and credits please go to Healing News November 1997
When doctors found that Gabriel was weaker than his brother, with an enlarged heart,and believed he was going to die in the womb, his mother Rebecca Jones had to make a heartbreaking decision.
Doctors told her his death could cause his twin brother to die too before they were born, and that it would be better to end Gabriel's suffering sooner rather than later.
Thriving: Gabriel, right, with his twin brother Ieuan, is now a healthy 12lb 6oz at seven months
Mrs Jones decided to let doctors operate to terminate Gabriel's life.Firstly they tried to sever his umbilical cord to cut off his blood supply, but the cord was too strong.
They then cut Mrs Jones's placenta in half so that when Gabriel died, it would not affect his twin brother.
But after the operation which was meant to end his life, tiny
Gabriel had other ideas.
Although he weighed less than a pound, he put up such a fight for survival that doctors called him Rocky.
Astonishingly, he managed to carry on living in his mother's womb for another five weeks - until the babies were delivered by caesarean section.
Now he and Ieuan are back at home in Stoke - and are so close they are always holding each other's hand.
Mrs Jones, 35, a financial adviser whose husband Mark, 36, is a car salesman, said: "It really is a miracle. Doctors carried out an operation to let Gabriel die - yet he hung on.
"It was unbelievable."
"When I felt him kicking madly the morning after the operation, I suddenly knew that he was going to hang on.
"The doctors couldn't believe it when they could still hear his heartbeat the next morning."
Rebecca Jones: 'It's a miracle'
Mrs Jones learned she was expecting twins when she was ten weeks pregnant. She said: "When they told us we were over the moon."
But at her 20-week scan, doctors had some devastating news. One of the boys was half the size of his brother.
They didn't know what was causing it, but somehow he wasn't getting enough nutrients.
Then doctors said his heart was three times normal size and it was likely he would have a heart attack or a stroke in the womb.
Mrs Jones said: "They told us that if he died, it could be life threatening for his brother.
"We had to decide whether to end his life and let his brother live, or risk them both."
They said it would be impossible to keep him alive afterwards as he was so poorly.
It would be kinder to let him die in the womb with his brother by his side than to die alone after being born.
"That made my mind up for me. I wanted the best thing for him."
At Birmingham Women's Hospital, when Mrs Jones was 25 weeks pregnant, doctors tried to sever Gabriel's umbilical cord to cut off his blood supply and allow him to die.
But the cord was too thick, and they could not cut through it.
As a last resort they divided Mrs Jones's placenta so that when Gabriel died, it would allow Ieuan to survive. Mrs Jones said: "I put my hands on my stomach thinking of Gabriel. It was devastating. I had said my goodbyes."
But the next morning Mrs Jones felt Gabriel kicking. A scan showed his heart was still beating. She said: "No one could quite believe it."
Gabriel hung on, and his enlarged heart started to reduce in size. He also gained weight.
Mrs Jones said: "They thought it may be because the placenta had been divided. Inadvertently, it had evened out the distribution of nutrition between them, allowing Gabriel to survive.'
When Mrs Jones reached 31 weeks doctors carried out a caesarian to deliver the twins. Ieuan weighed 3lb 8oz and Gabriel 1lb 15oz. Both were kept in hospital, but since going home they have thrived. At seven months, Ieuan weighs 15lb and Gabriel 12lb 6oz.
Mrs Jones said: "The boys are so healthy, they have huge appetites too. Ieuan is the noisy one, while Gabriel is always laughing, it's like he's just so happy to be here.
"There is such a strong bond between them.
"They are always holding hands and if one cries, the other reaches out to comfort him."
"Doctors tried to break their bond in the womb, but they just proved it couldn't be broken."
“..if it were not for the restraining hand of God upon them, they would , soon break out, they would flame out after the same manner as the same corruptions, the same enmity does in the hearts of damned souls, and would beget the same torments in ‘em as they do in them. The souls of the wicked are in Scripture compared to the troubled sea, Is. 57:20.
For the present God restrains their wickedness by his mighty power, as he does the raging waves of the troubled sea, saying, “Hitherto shalt thou come, and no further”; but if God should withdraw that restraining power, it would soon carry all afore it.
Sin is the ruin and misery of the soul; it is destructive in its nature; and if God should leave it without restraint, there would need nothing else to make the soul perfectly miserable.
The corruption of the heart of man is a thing that is immoderate and boundless sink of sin, so, if sin was not restrained, it would immediately turn the soul into a fiery oven, or a furnace of fire and brimstone.”
Jonathan Edwards: Sinners in the hands of an angry God (1741)
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